A One-Page Handout for IEP Meetings
Parents are often told that concerns about IEP goals or placement are addressed by “presuming competence.” While this phrase is well-intended, it is sometimes used in ways that discourage legitimate questions about pacing, instructional sequencing, and feasibility.
This one-page handout was created to help parents frame those questions calmly and clearly—without confrontation, and without needing to cite laws or research in the moment.
What This Handout Is For
This handout is designed to be:
- printed and brought to an IEP meeting
- shared with team members as a reference
- used to support respectful, instructional conversations
It explains, in plain language, why:
- IEP goals are one-year instructional commitments
- presuming competence does not mean skipping foundational instruction
- appropriate goals must follow a teachable pathway from a child’s current skills
When This Handout Is Helpful
Parents may find this handout useful when:
- a proposed goal feels far beyond their child’s current abilities
- concerns about pacing are dismissed as “limiting”
- moral or philosophical language replaces instructional explanation
- they want to keep the discussion focused on learning and feasibility
The handout does not argue against high expectations or inclusion. It simply clarifies that meaningful progress requires appropriate instruction and realistic timelines.
How to Use It
- Print the handout and keep it with your IEP documents
- Review it before a meeting to organize your thoughts
- Refer to it if the conversation becomes confusing or abstract
- Share it with team members if it helps refocus the discussion
Many parents find that having a neutral, written explanation reduces pressure and helps keep conversations grounded.
Download the Handout
Related Resources
This handout is based on the ideas discussed in the article “Presumed Competence Has Been Weaponized.” Parents who want a deeper explanation may find that article helpful.
You may also find these helpful:
- IEP Goal Review Worksheet – A step-by-step tool for evaluating proposed goals
- IEP Meeting Script for Parents – Language you can use when a goal doesn’t feel right
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